Will Sex Robots Bring About the End of Civilization?

Sex robots are on the horizon. And this might be a problem. Imagine this: A totally realistic robot of your own design that is capable of fully carrying out any sex act that you can dream up. It looks, smells, and sounds incredibly realistic. And your state-sponsored insurance paid for her in full. Read Full...
The Sex Robots are Coming!

The Sex Robots are Coming!

Our world is changing faster than at any point in history.  We expect ourselves to roll with these changes, as if this is what we humans are designed to do.  But that’s just not the case.  Our biology is predicated upon a much slower civilization.  As a result, we are now being presented with experiences and compelling stimuli that have never occurred before in the history of the human race.  This includes dramatic changes and advances in almost every aspect of our lives- technology, food, and now, even sex!  In the next decade or so, we will be asked to incorporate something surreal into our intimate relationships and our bedrooms….sex robots. One of the funniest takes on my lectures has been that I believe sex robots will be the end of civilization.  This is not what I said, but it certainly is an attention-grabber!  What we can expect is that sex robots will create some real benefits for intimacy, as well as real challenges.  Sex robots will allow people with limited access to partners, such as those with intellectual or physical disabilities, to have the experience of intimacy.  They will also personify sensual, exciting lovers that will present extraordinarily compelling fodder for our primal sexual instincts.  Only time can show us what this will mean for the future of human relationships. There are social trends today that may facilitate the popularity of sex robots.  Both single and partnered folks are having less sex than in the past.  Sexual concerns and dysfunctions remain as high as ever.  #MeToo is on everyone’s mind.  All this, coupled with the fact that depression...
Acting Your Age Between the Sheets

Acting Your Age Between the Sheets

For a natural act, sex can be surprisingly challenging. It is remarkably easy to feel threatened, hurt, rejected, or self-conscious in intimate moments. And that just makes sense, because it is during love-making that we are most vulnerable and exposed – we are even without clothing. This opens the door for toxic emotions to seep in, such as those mentioned above. And when feeling these ways, it’s easy to revert back to a less mature state of mind, and stop acting our age. So instead of behaving as the adult we like to think we are, we somehow find ourselves acting quite adolescent – yet feeling completely justified in doing so. And when one partner expresses their “inner juvenile”, the other is usually quick to follow. So now we have two adolescents trying to make love – not usually a smooth experience, particularly when their biological age is several decades older. So, for example, assuming a heterosexual couple, he comes on to her and she’s not interested. She agrees anyway, trying to be a good sport. But her heart isn’t into it, and she tells him to skip foreplay. This is not a good idea because now her body won’t get the warm-up time necessary to relax, open, and really connect with him. He feels this rejection, which makes him feel small and ashamed – like he’s 16 again, being sexually rejected for the first time. He shuts down emotionally so as to not feel that discomfort, closes his eyes, and becomes robotic in his movements. His stiffness makes her feel used and unloved – and now, in a...
Making Love with Your Clothes On

Making Love with Your Clothes On

Want to improve your sex life? The next time you are going to make love, KEEP YOUR CLOTHES ON. I mean, for the entire experience. Forget about penetration, orgasm, and all that jazz that distracts us from what the experience is really about. I’m sure you think I’m crazy. But there’s no better way to learn how to add depth and intensity to your lovemaking. Making love with your clothes on will force you to rely on the most powerful aspects of intimacy – those same aspects that you ignore when you are so focused on genitals – yours, and your parner’s. But if you take everyone’s pelvis out of the picture, you will really learn what love-making is all about. Let me explain. When you make love with your clothes on, it allows you to concentrate on all of the facets of love-making that take your experience from boring sex into tender bliss. These are the skills that men have developed when women recall the best sex of their lives – when she feels ravished, consumed, and fully loved. They are the skills that women use when a man feels that his partner totally opened and responded to him, allowing him into her body, heart, and soul. When couples have these abilities, then the inevitable toll that aging takes on their bodies’ matters so much less. Penis size, low libido, premature ejaculation, and vulvar pain all become less distressing. Making love with your clothes on means you must focus on your loving connection, the “energy” you and your partner exchange, your vocalizations, the ways you see into your...
Maturity is Sexy!

Maturity is Sexy!

What do you think? Is her maturity sexy? Western cultures promote the perception that of all ages, young women are the most sexual. We are brainwashed with messages suggesting that it’s women in their late teens and early twenties who are the true sexual dynamos. But stop and think about it. The fact is that we have confused fertility and youth with sexual passion and prowess. Consider for a moment the skills required to be a great lover. A woman has to know her body and what turns her on. She needs a general understanding and comfort level with the body of her partner. She must have confidence to allow herself to let go and travel deep into the mysterious sexual world that she co-creates with her lover. These are skills that take time and practice to develop. The truth of the matter is that most of us are not innately born great lovers. Making love is an art form, and as with any art, it requires skill that is honed with time and effort. Thus, it is probably the women with more years of experience with their own bodies, and the bodies of others, who truly have the best chance at being an amazing bed partner. Furthermore, this fact doesn’t elude men. Porn featuring older, more mature women is extremely popular. An appreciation of what a mature woman can bring to the bedroom is part of this attraction. So, the bottom line? Ladies, don’t be intimated by cultural fairy tales about age and sexuality. If you are young, enjoy the innate attraction you evoke in men. If you...